Caring for an Autistic Child – Tips from Jan

Caring for an autistic child with learning disabilities is all about patience, understanding, and creating a supportive environment where they can feel safe and thrive. Every child is unique, so it’s about tuning in to what works best for them. Here are some key things to keep in mind:

1. Understanding Autism & Learning Disabilities

Autism is a lifelong difference that affects how a child experiences the world, including communication, social interaction, and sensory processing.

Learning disabilities can impact thinking, problem-solving, and daily skills—but every child has strengths we can build on.

Focus on their abilities rather than labels. What helps them feel happy, safe, and understood?

2. Communication & Interaction

Not all children use words to communicate. Be open to PECS (Picture Exchange Communication System), Makaton, or AAC (Augmentative and Alternative Communication) devices.

Give them extra time to process what you say.

Keep language simple and clear—no tricky phrases or figures of speech.

Watch their body language—it often tells you more than words!

Talk through daily activities to help them understand what’s happening next.

3. Predictability & Routine

Structure helps autistic children feel secure. Use visual schedules, timers, or written cues.

Prepare them for changes with social stories or countdowns—sudden surprises can be stressful.

Keep your approach consistent so they know what to expect from the adults around them.

4. Sensory Needs

Some children are extra-sensitive to lights, sounds, textures, or smells. Others seek more sensory input.

Create a comfortable space—soft lighting, quiet areas, or preferred textures can make a big difference.

Fidget toys, weighted blankets, or chewable items can help with regulation.

Let them choose whether they want hugs or physical contact—some children find it overwhelming.

5. Emotional Regulation & Behaviour

All behaviour is communication—look for the reason behind it.

Stay calm, be reassuring, and help them manage big feelings through co-regulation.

Provide safe outlets for frustration, like movement breaks or sensory activities.

Use visual supports or social stories to teach coping strategies.

If a meltdown happens, keep them safe, reduce demands, and give them space to recover.

6. Encouraging Independence

Break tasks down into simple, step-by-step instructions.

Visual supports (like checklists or picture guides) help make things clearer.

Offer choices where possible—this builds confidence and reduces anxiety.

Praise effort, not just results, and celebrate the small wins!

7. Social Interaction & Play

Help them interact in ways that feel comfortable for them.

Social time can be exhausting—respect their need for space and downtime.

Parallel play (playing alongside rather than together) can be a great way to connect.

Use their special interests in play and learning—it’s a great motivator.

8. Working with Professionals & Families

Collaborate with therapists, teachers, and support teams to create the best plan.

Keep communication open with the child’s family and wider support network.

Note down what strategies work best—it helps ensure consistency across different settings.

9. Looking After Yourself

Caring for an autistic child is rewarding but can also be challenging—don’t be afraid to ask for support.

Reflect on what’s working and share any concerns with your team.

Take time to recharge—it’s important for you too!

10. Be Flexible & Willing to Adapt

What works one day might not work the next—stay patient and open to change.

If a strategy isn’t helping, try a different approach.

Keep learning from the child—no one knows their needs better than they do.

By approaching care with patience, structure, and warmth, you’re giving an autistic child the best chance to feel safe, valued, and able to reach their potential.

If you need any more support, feel free to contact me or your supervising social worker at Credo Care.

Janice Harris (M.Ed Autism)